From 81 to 92% of New Year promises become broken. Of course, it is difficult to track statistics like that seriously, but if to think, the number is titanic. What does it tell you about?
People absolutely do not know how their brain and psychic work. But this is not the most wondering fact. The most wondering one is that, the most part of people think they know themselves. They break promises given to themselves every time, and then claim that they know why it had happened that way and they know what to do next time in order to reach success. But, for some reason, they never do things.
Without a doubt, it is very difficult to change one’s habit or behavior. Why? What is the matter for humans not being able to keep up to new skills? What can be done in order to make the process of changing easier and simpler?
First of all, you need to learn how to avoid making mistakes. Thus if you do not make them, then you do everything right (at least, in theory). Here are fails that easyhomework.net writers decided to put on top.
Mistake One: Thinking that You Can Change Them All In a Moment
Solution: choose one habit and do it all right.
All psychologists who study habits say the same: you need to concentrate on the required minimum. Professor Fogg from Stanford University thinks that the maximum quantity of habits a single human can change at a time – three. He says, those are to be small habits.
How small should they be? For example:
- Learning to wash your teeth every day;
- Doing 20 push-ups a day;
- Saying “This is going to be a great day!” every morning.
If the point is about a complicated habit, then concentrate on it exclusively. Besides, if you are going to start changing yourself that way, you’ll mention that other small habits come together with the big good one.
Because of this reason, you need to choose a so-called key-habit. If you start keeping up to it, then it will influence other fields of your life as well. For instance, after gaining a habit of visiting gym every day, you’ll eat more healthy, watch after yourself, smile more often, etc.
Mistake Two: Starting from a Too Big Habit
Solution: do it so small you couldn't say “No” to it.
The most complicated part of gaining a habit is when you start behaving in other wat. You need much motivation to go to the gym for training after the tough working day, but as soon as you really start training, you won’t need much of your willpower to deal with it as intended. That is why one of the best things you can do in order to form new behavior is to start from a small habit.
New of your desired habits don’t have to be dangerous. Start from a behavior that seems to be simple and smart to follow it every day.
- Do you want to perform 100 push-ups per day? Start from things more simple: 10 or 15 push-ups;
- Do you wish to read more? Start from reading at least three complete pages every evening;
- Do you want to go in for meditating at last? Meditate during a minute in the evening or morning.
Mistake Three: Daring to Results without Getting Satisfied with a Process
Solution: focus on how you behave, not on the final result.
Almost every talk about targets is oriented on a certain kind of a result. What do you wish to reach? How many pounds do you wish to get rid of? How much funds do you need to earn? How many books would you like to read?
People are naturally oriented for results because they want their new behavior to bring them profits. But there is a problem: new goals don’t bring new results. New way of life brings. And it is not about the result, it’s a process. Due to this reason, all your energy is to be devoted to building rituals, not to chasing after better results.
Ritual is something that turns your behavior into a habit. It is a very precise action you do in a certain period of time in order to make it automatic as the time passes by. If you need to develop a new habit, you literally have to fall in love with your new ritual.
Mistake Four: Leaving the Environment Unchanged
Solution: create the environment that supports good habits.
How do you think, can a person always keep up to positive habits while being in a negative environment? Well, it is almost impossible:
- to eat healthy if there is bad food around you all the time;
- to stay positive if you are always among people who are unsatisfied with their lives;
- to concentrate on one task if notifications, messages, questions, emails etc. distract you on purpose;
- to stop drinking alcohol, if people around you constantly use it.
People rarely claim their behavior to be just a reaction onto the environment. In fact, it can be supposed that your way of life for today (all your habits) is mostly a product of where you live in every day.
Mistake Five: Thinking that Details Don’t Matter
Solution: become 1% better every day.
If you can hear how a person describes their goal, there almost surely will be the description of a minimal wanted result: read at least 50 books throughout the year, store at least $5000, lose at least 50 pounds…
People just need numbers as indicators of a measurable result. But as a rule, this approach does not work. Almost every habit is the result of small changes. Do you want to lose a few pounds? Get used to running or exercising every day (even during 10 minutes only). This repeatable template will lead you to great changes with time.
Becoming 1% better or worse every day is your call.